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My Coast Guard
Commentary | March 3, 2021

How effective connection to others cultivates self-care—a Wellness Wednesday discussion 

By Keisha Reynolds, MyCG Writer

Our relationships with family, friends, coworkers, and intimate partners are put to the test daily. How we express ourselves and how we relate to others, will constantly change and its important to know how to navigate these changes in healthy ways.

Join us for Wellness Wednesday today from 3 - 4 pm EST as Leslie Cardona and Chaplain Ethan Everts, both from the First District, teach us ideal relationship habits and help us confront unresolved feelings that can bring conflict and unhappiness in our lives.

The discussion is intended to have us each reflect on our personal relationships and how they impact us. “Connection builds immunity and resilience,” said Cardona. We are social creatures and if we isolate, our resilience drops. Connecting with others in relationships can be a great way to take care of ourselves, if done in a healthy way.”

The pair will also discuss Gottman's principles, which are proven, through research, to be effective techniques that can be applied to any kind of relationship although they were originally created for couples. The principles also provide a framework for conflict resolution. 

Everts further explained, “The principles that will be taught apply to work, friendships, parenting and even to how we handle conflict with an employee at a retail store,” said Everts. “Conflict happens because no one is exactly the same.”

“Addressing conflict is necessary and it exists everywhere,” added Cardona. Learning how to navigate it helps us understand how to be respectful, which results in better relationships that result in happier, more productive people—and that is the primary goal.”

Resources:

  • Gottman Institute   - Books, cards, and research-based approach to relationships
  • Do's and Don't of Conflict


Please click this link to attend Wellness Wednesday from your CG computer, personal computer or mobile device. Even if you do not have a CVR.mil account, you can still watch the stream via the link above. If you wish to maintain anonymity, log out of your normal (USCG/DOD) CVR account and join as a guest. You may also call (571) 388-3904; Conference ID 453 387 852#. If you have questions or suggestions, you may e-mail us at wellnesswednesday@uscg.mil.